To have the relationship we want, we need to be honest about how we show up as a partner. We enter into romantic/love relationships seeking either validation or confirmation.
When we seek validation, we unconsciously show up with unmet needs. It may feel like an emptiness or longing but it’s really our unmet childhood needs for love, acceptance, security, or significance.
When we seek confirmation, we enter into the relationship with the experience of having our needs fulfilled. And so we seek a partner who confirms what we already know: that we are worthy of love and attention and we determine our worth.
It took me years to recognize I was seeking validation and how that influenced my choices. Do you have awareness of how you show up in your romantic relationship?
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