More Than a Coach
When I reflect on my career choices, I see how becoming a social worker was a fantastic distraction from my own problems. Here’s a secret about therapist and other mental health professionals; we have problems too. You can have a great recipe and still make a crappy cake.
From the perspective of friends and family…I was killing it. I was the only female in my entire extended family to have earned a graduate degree. I owned a home, drove a nice car, made good money, and had a healthy retirement account.
But I was unhappy. And the work of masking my insecurity was exhausting. I developed the habit of putting other people’s needs before my own and always felt like I had to shrink myself to make other people feel better. It served as a great distraction from my own self development. I used the fact that I was “helping” people to justify what I now know to be my avoidance, people pleasing and co-dependency.
Nikole Seals, MSW
“I was lost. I wasn’t living my life. I was surviving my circumstances. Surviving is important, but you shouldn’t live there.”
Surviving Is Not Thriving
I had always believed my greatest strength was my ability to endure and survive. But it was the chronic illness, numerous failed relationships, and semi-annual breakdowns that helped me come to this conclusion: I wasn’t living my life. I was surviving my circumstances. Surviving is an important mindset, but you shouldn’t live there.
What I did next was radical and changed my life forever. I acknowledged my emotional pain and decided I wanted to stop feeling wounded. I got honest about my beliefs and my emotions; and from this act of self love, I remembered who I was meant to be and learned to trust myself.
My self awareness led me on an amazing self help journey to discover my own inner therapist (she’s nothing like the clinical therapist I was trained to be). Her courage empowered me to trust my internal GPS for guidance. And it led me back to school to study holistic health which forever changed my body. It also convinced me to start my own coaching practice. My Inner Therapist has created a life I didn’t think was possible and now I can’t imagine living without her.
The Good Stuff
I’m highly sensitive to people’s (and animals!) energy and pain.
If a stray dog is on the side of the road, best believe I’m trying to rescue it.
I feel the need to save every glass jar I bring into my house.
I can live without my phone, but I’d be lost without my Nutri Bullet.
I love to dance and will do so to the point of injury.
I refill my tank by spending time in nature and playing with my dog.
I swear when necessary and because it just feels right.
I think humor is more effective than anti-depressants.